I have to go to Chicago for a wedding next month and I'm not terribly happy about it. I'm not fond of weddings as a general principle (I love this 'Weddings are Stupid' post from Violent Acres) and they send my family up to eleven. But all the crazy family dramas and astonishingly bad dancing aside, leaving 12 1/2 year old Cody in kennels for 3 days is what has me down. Last time we left an old dog in a kennel he nearly died from getting sick from being stressed out and we were in Scotland visiting Jonny's dad (who was dying) so there was nothing we could do except beg a friend to take him which he did and thankfully the dog ended up being fine once he got home. All the dogs have always been fine at the kennels, we board them with our vet and they've never had a problem but I worry with Cody being so old. I'm sure he'll be fine, I'm just neurotic after what happened with the other dog. If it wasn't for my grandmother Jonny would stay home with them but she really wanted him to be there and he hasn't been back with me for 2 years so he's going for her sake. We had a couple of people willing to look after him but just my luck they're also out of town that weekend.
Was also sort of depressed when I took a look at the gift registry. First of all I think it's bad manners to invite someone to a party and expect them to give you a gift. Violent Acres agrees with me on this point as well. Especially given the economy and my sparse, erratic employment a nice thing would have been a note in my invitation telling me please don't worry about a gift, we're happy just to have you (the trip is already costing around $1200 for 3 days). Instead I was treated to a special insert telling me all the places the couple was registered at. I don't know, maybe this is common practice these days but I couldn't believe the expensive gifts they had signed up for. What does a 24 year old even want with a $350 Waterford crystal vase? And why do they think a guest at their wedding should pony up that kind of money for it? Some of the other items included a $500 Blue Ray system, a $1000 digital camera, a $900 bed frame and an $1800 table. I don't mean to pick on my cousin, maybe this is common practice these days but I would be horrified at the thought of asking for such expensive gifts even from my family members. Sure there were plenty of affordable things on the list and I suppose most people will go for those but wow I wouldn't even spend that kind of money on that stuff for myself let alone expect someone else to. Maybe there's something else going on here, some other sort of weird cultural thing that I'm missing, like hopefully they're not really expecting that they're entitled to such gifts, maybe just sort of dreaming out loud.
In the end I opted for a coffee maker and one of my own choosing, not the one off the registry.
For the record Jonny and I got up on a Thursday morning and got married at the Boulder Courthouse downtown. Our only guests were a couple of friends of mine visiting from England. We got up that morning and told them we happened to be getting married if they were interested in coming along. I wore a $29 dress from Target and I think Jonny's suit may have come from a thrift store. We went for drinks at a Scottish/Irish bar afterwards then we went hiking up at Rocky Mountain National Park. We had 3 wedding gifts that were completely unsolicited but we loved them (a toaster oven, a beautiful hand made pottery casserole dish and a set of 2 wine glasses). I think my grandmother gave us a check as well. Twenty years of marriage later I think our wedding was awesome.